Tag: loss

The secrets in our silences

I began reading the book History Beyond Trauma by Françoise Davoine and Jean-Max Gaudillière during a turbulent time in my life — when deaths, losses, and uncertainties continually piled up. Despite my best efforts to remain optimistic and push forward with life as planned, traumatic stress was threatening to be more than a subject I …

Taking that leap of faith

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One of my teachers at Pacifica Graduate Institute called psychotherapy “the hope manufacturing business.” And frankly, if my first meetings with a therapist left me feeling dejected, I’d likely think that person was pretty lousy at her or his job. Psychotherapy is time-consuming, expensive, and shines a spotlight on the painful stuff we have difficulty getting over …

Grief following natural disasters

Since 1975, natural disasters increased by 430%. Yet percentages mean little to those whose homes, communities, and livelihoods are destroyed when monster storms like Hurricane Sandy (2012) collided with the Atlantic Seaboard. Thank goodness for volunteers, places of worship, civic-minded organizations, and professionals who plan for the unthinkable, and are there when shock and disaster …